Modern Relationship Levels

I did it. I officially switched my Friendster profile to "In a Relationship." It's the newest obstacle one must overcome in the progression of a relationship. APK asked why it matters what the profile states. I consider it the Fraternity Pin of today's culture meaning a public testament to others, and to yourself, that you are currently taken. One would think a guy would prefer this public declaration of being off the market over the purchase of expensive jewelry or a Fraternity ceremony. Hell, if it doesn't work out, all you have to do is update your profile.

So it's month number 4 in my current "relationship" on April 5th. After my 3 year relationship ended in June, I was adamantly against calling someone my boyfriend again unless I was 100% sure I would be having little Eden and Caleb with them. But there are certain complications that arise from being sort-of-off-the-market. Like when you get asked out by someone else... in actuality, until your married, you should probably be going on dates with any potential suitors. However, I'm one for staying focused on the task at hand, and APK, like most guys I seem to date, is highly territorial. Do I say politely to the guy asking me out, "I'm sorry, but I'm dating someone right now even though I'm not sure how seriously because he doesn't ever give me any indication of where he sees this going so if you wouldn't mind me calling you when it ends..." Oy.

Luckily, there was a 14 minute wait before the next train at the Clarendon Metro stop on Thursday night. Since both APK and I consider a serious talk the ultimate buzz kill, a 14 minute limit on said conversation actually ended up being ideal. Concise questions and answers. Sometimes a girl just needs to here, "I don't want you to date anyone else."

I changed my profile on Friendster for now. I figure it's more like a reminder to me that, for the time being, someone is calling me their own. Call me a total chick, but I sort of like it.