Sign, sealed, delivered. I'm yours.
I believe in fate.
I think that, if you stop believing that everything happens for a reason, you'll have no reason to look beyond the bad.
So, even though sometimes I stop having faith in kismet, I always come back to hoping for a life on some sort of track.
A friend's been dating a 26-year old guy who hasn't had a relationship since high school. 9 years without a girlfriend. She was worried that he only found her, because he was ready for a relationship (ie- red lighted). It was a fleeting worry, to be honest, seeing as I think she realizes he and she are very good together.
But, I got to analyzing the worry. Come on, you know by now, that's what I do best.
Here's the thing- the girl a red lighted guy finds to settle down with has to be red lighted too! Isn't it kismet to find yourself with someone looking for what you're looking for at the very same point in time? I mean, in her case, she was drunk on Christmas Eve and suddenly more confident than ever before. She walked right on up to him and started to chat. For a healthy and successful relationship to develop from that interaction, fate MUST be in the planning.
At dinner last night, I stated: "Can you just take a glimpse at who I have been attracted to these last couple months? Do you think I'm looking for marriage? If I was looking to move to the suburbs and garden on Saturday evening, I'd be attracted to a different type of guy! And, if you were looking to walk down an aisle tomorrow, you too would be actively finding someone else. You and he were both looking to be in a monogamous relationship with a potential future but no current rush. You found each other at the same point in time you were looking for the same thing. That, dear, is fate."
Don't you think?
I think that, if you stop believing that everything happens for a reason, you'll have no reason to look beyond the bad.
So, even though sometimes I stop having faith in kismet, I always come back to hoping for a life on some sort of track.
A friend's been dating a 26-year old guy who hasn't had a relationship since high school. 9 years without a girlfriend. She was worried that he only found her, because he was ready for a relationship (ie- red lighted). It was a fleeting worry, to be honest, seeing as I think she realizes he and she are very good together.
But, I got to analyzing the worry. Come on, you know by now, that's what I do best.
Here's the thing- the girl a red lighted guy finds to settle down with has to be red lighted too! Isn't it kismet to find yourself with someone looking for what you're looking for at the very same point in time? I mean, in her case, she was drunk on Christmas Eve and suddenly more confident than ever before. She walked right on up to him and started to chat. For a healthy and successful relationship to develop from that interaction, fate MUST be in the planning.
At dinner last night, I stated: "Can you just take a glimpse at who I have been attracted to these last couple months? Do you think I'm looking for marriage? If I was looking to move to the suburbs and garden on Saturday evening, I'd be attracted to a different type of guy! And, if you were looking to walk down an aisle tomorrow, you too would be actively finding someone else. You and he were both looking to be in a monogamous relationship with a potential future but no current rush. You found each other at the same point in time you were looking for the same thing. That, dear, is fate."
Don't you think?
posted by Sam.I.Am @ Tuesday, May 08, 2007
5 Comments:
At May 08, 2007,
I-66 said…
I'm no fatalist.
If the courses of our lives are predetermined by faith, then we have no control over our what happens to us. I'd like to believe that I elected to eat that crispy buffalo chicken wrap at lunch and that I wasn't fated to do it.
Then again, I'm also a self-described agnostic, and being a fatalist and being agnostic would be rather contradictory.
At May 08, 2007,
I-66 said…
I should say, predetermined by fate.
Whatever, you know what I mean :)
At May 08, 2007,
Sam.I.Am said…
You lost me at fatalist=) But, doesn't it give you the warm and fuzzies to know I think we met for a reason! Like this very blog's entire purpose could be so that you and I could be friends!
At May 08, 2007,
HomeImprovementNinja said…
I don't think that your fate is predetermined, but I definitely think that the universe wants to point you in a certain direction. There are certain lessons that you must acquire before you are ready for your true purpose in life, which is why sucky things (like destructive relationships) keep happenenning to certain people until they learn their lesson and move on. The universe keeps hurling the same lessons at people and they get left back, just like in school, until they get it right and move forward.
ABout things happening for a reason: Yeah, I buy that. Taoists believe that you are link in an infinite chain that is connected to everything that came before you and everything that follows. You are tied to everyone and everything in the universe, so it's not to far a leap to think that people come and go (and things happen to you) for a reason.
At May 09, 2007,
sunchaser said…
"the universe"? I guess I'm not a Taoist. And I definitely don't believe that "things happen for a reason" (hello, disaster victims, victims of violent crimes, etc?)
I do believe in neuroscience and brain plasticity. It is kind of amazing how much new information comes out everyday about how the human (and vole) brain functions (and sometimes malfunctions). Fascinating stuff.
Post a Comment
<< Home